Please talk a little more to elders with a little more patience
My mother-in-law has been retired for about ten years. She doesn’t attend any kind of public activities. Her life is limited as a family woman, buying foods, cooking foods, and doing something for her family. But nobody want to be lonely and feel isolated. So she often joins in when other family members are talking. Sadly, her oldest son and her daughter, my wife, don’t seem to be patient with her.
Sometimes, my mother-in-law will come out of kitchen for some topics whenever she hears talking. But she often gets a little cold response like this :”It’s none of your business, or I have told you yesterday, and so on.” I have told my wife that she is not supposed to treat her mother like that.
I don’t talk a lot at my mother-in-law’s home. But I always tell her what I know if she asks what is talking, because I know my wife has less patience on this.
I think my wife and her brothers haven’t known that their parents are feeling kind of lonely. After they retired, and their physical condition contain their activitiy. So young families need to talk more about things happened around. In fact, I have told my wife about the feeling of how the elders feel, especially, when they stay at home too long, lacking of communication with other people.
Perhaps, elders are really like children on many sides. We need to pay more effort to care for not only their physical condition but also their mental condition.