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　　 I have never left my daughter for more than two days since she was three years of age, because I have been feeling kind of guilty of not taking good care of her before she was 3-year-old. I was then working very hard, and often stayed very late at office.
　　
　　 We were all very busy, and stayed very late up to two o’clock every day. All the ladies even worked through night for at least three times. As a man, I felt ashamed that I didn’t do that. I can’t stay too late because I have been suffering hyperplasia on neck and gastric ulcer, as computer programmer, which are the consequences of being careless to my health.
　　
　　 I could bear the tough work, but I could hardly stand the strong feeling of missing my daughter. The 7th floor we worked was special place where mobile phone couldn’t connect to outside. The signal was screened. More than sixty persons crowed in a room, sharing only two phones. So I rarely called my daughter until my wife told me one day that my daughter was missing me very much. I called my daughter after supper, but she never spoke for more than ten seconds in a call, just asking me to buy her some toys and then handed the phone to my wife. My wife laughed at her, saying she was not missing me, but the toys.
　　
　　 Because of being suffered from gastric ulcer, I got used to sleeping and geting up early. I rarely slept later than 11 o’clock at night. When I slept at two o’clock in the morning, I was still sort of excited, staying sleepless for at least one hour. I felt a fit of dull pain in my stomach when I got up at about 9 o’clock next morning. The food was bad, I had no appetite for breakfast and lunch. I was then sadly feeling that I was not young physically.
　　
　　 I don’t in the least like the boisterous city which worsens my light sleep. I feel much better living in a quiet small city like our town. The noises of the ChangSha City mixing with the missing of my daughter made my nightmare of night.
　　
　　 It’s so good that I come back at last to go on with my peaceful life. And the experience of the past 20-day of work reminds me of needing more exercise. I will remember that.

　　 I told my daughter last Friday that she could go to her grandpa’s home next day. She was so excited that she jumped and ran with joy, even shaking my body, and said:”You are the best daddy in the world.” afterwards, she began to arrange her things for the next day’s short trip. She packed two big bags.
　　
　　 My daughter hadn’t gone to visit my father for a long time. She had been keeping asking for it. But I wished she could go there together with me. After I was told that I had to go to ChangSha on errand, I knew that she wouldn’t have time to go any more if I didn’t let her go to the countryside.
　　
　　 The another important reason why my daughter wanted to go to my father’s home was that her cousin, her favorite playmate, has been already there for a week.
　　
　　 I don’t allow her to spend summer holiday at her grandpa’s home, because she always eats all kinds of junk food and eats least healthy food. My parents always let her do what she wants to do, and eat what she wants to eat. I will be uneasy while she is in the countryside. After all, she is a little kid. She can’t take care of herself and my parents spoil her too much.
　　
　　 I phone her every evening. Most time she doesn’t answer my call, just telling my mother who gets the call that she is busy. Sometimes she answers my call, but, before I can say any words, she has hung up the phone after saying a word of ’bye-bye’. I can imagine that she is eager to join up with her cousin for some games.
　　
　　 My mother told me that my daughter didn’t read the story books of English. Although I packed the book for her, I knew that she wouldn’t read a word of the book. But I can do nothing. She is just a bird out of the cage, a fish into the deep and wide sea, a wild horse without rein.
　　
　　 As a matter of fact, I worry her safety most. My father house stands by the joint of two streams. It’s a good place to live, but it’s a dangerous place for a child as young as my daughter. I warned my daughter again and again before she set off. I will beat her if she did something dangerous. I also call my parents, asking them to put close eyes on my daughter.
　　 How can I get relieved when a little unfledged bird fly in the wild forest full of danger. Perhaps, I magnify the danger, but I can’t help it.

　　 When I saw the photo yesterday that a girl was selling vegetable with a back-basket on her back, towering her little body, somehow I think of the girl who sold matches in the cold winter.
　　
　　 How could it happen ? I guess that she must have lost her parents, or her parents couldn’t let such a little girl do that. In addition, the girl was with her grandpa in the photo.
　　
　　 In recent years, I have seen many photos like this, showing little kids doing things that they are not supposed to do. From my own experience, I can tell what the photos tell us is true. There are still a lot of pathetic family in our country, though the economy is growing fast. Especially, in some families with only kids and old grandparents, or and invalid parents, their condition are very miserable. In my knowledge, I have never heard any official policy to protect those families so far. They are always in the shadow of life, no matter how many policies come on from the government.
　　
　　 while Government put them in the oblivious corner of life, fortunately, the society doesn’t forget them. Now more and more non-governmental organization are trying to do something for people in bad condition.
　　
　　 In our city, YouTaoJuShi is such a organizer who created ZhangJiaJie Union of Love with other two young fellows. JuShi is more than 60 years of age, his son has asked him to live with him in BeiJing for many times, but he didn’t go. He feels that it’s his destiny to do something for the children who are facing the threat of failing to attend school, because they have lost their parents, or their parents are very ill.
　　
　　 JuShi often visits faraway villages and country schools, gathering information of excellent students who are in awful economy condition. Perhaps, some people will wonder about such situation, and they would like to ask:”Government has freed students in elementary school and junior high school of all kinds of tuition. Why are there still so many kids who can’t afford to attend school ?”
　　
　　 Now, in the countryside, most schools are boarding schools. A student in junior high school needs to pay about 2000RMB to school for food. A lot of poor families can’t pay for that.
　　
　　 The donation of money from individual or firm is limited. Although JuShi wants to help all poor kids, what he can do is to choose the kids who are need help most.
　　
　　 Just like many other people, I wonder what Government has done for those poor kids ? I can’t come to the answer after racking my mind. Perhaps we should forgive the government just like they forgive themselves with some absurd unconvincing excuses. After all, people can’t do nothing but think the government will do better in the future.
　　
　　 Since Government stand aside on something, we need more ‘YouTaoJuShi’ to organize efforts to help the poor children who aren’t able to attend school without help of money.
　　
　　 Oh, God. Please put the time run faster and let’s get into the future when Government can take some real actions to help poor chilren.

　　 At sight of her grandpa, WangZheng couldn’t help smiling happily. Having lived in my home for about 40 days, WangZheng doesn’t still get used to live with us. After all, she is just a girl of 9 years of age.
　　
　　 Last week, I called WangZheng’s grandpa who lives in a faraway village, and told him that I had at present no time take care of WangZhang as well as my daughter who would go to my father’s home. He asked me if it’s possible that WangZheng could attend school in the city together with my daughter. Regretly I told him that I had no time to meet her granddaughter and walk her home after school. Then he said that I can take WangZheng when I took my daughter home after school.
　　
　　 I did tell him that WangZheng could attend school in the city if she could get used to live with us. But after 40 days, I found that I didn’t have the confidence of taking good care of her who have really worried me for some times. To have a little girl attend school in the city and live with us means not only money but also many responsibilities, her safety, her health, her education. I don’t have the confidence of guaranteeing all of them.
　　
　　 In addition, It’s my mother-in-law to meet my daughter after school every day. my wife is strongly against my plan of having WangZheng attend school here. Therefore, I can’t ask my mother-in-law to take care of WangZheng.
　　
　　 So I told WangZheng’s grandpa that her granddaughter can’t attend school in the city, because it’s inconvenient to meet her after school. He sounded sort of disappointed on the other end of the line. But I didn’t have other choice. I had taken thing too lightly and carelessly.
　　
　　 This is my second time of trying the same thing, and failed again.

　　 After finishing work at my office early this morning, I went home by bus of No.1. There was less than five people in the bus, so I could take a seat by a window. When the bus stopped WengChangGe(文昌阁), which is a busy place, so many people crowded into the bus that I was almost breathless even though I took the advantage of the open window, through which breeze kissed my face. A pretty young lady in a loose skirt stood nearby. Her bulging abdomen impressed me immediately. Unluckily, just at the moment when I wanted to get out and sign her to take my seat, she threw the core of pear that she had just finished out of the window. I swallowed my words, looking at the waste of pear on the ground instead of her baby-housing abdomen.
　　
　　 I pretended to look outside carelessly, but I was struggling inside with myself. “Am I right to do this ?” I kept asking myself, “After all, she is a pregnant woman.” But I didn’t really want to give my seat to such a lady.
　　
　　 ZhangJiaJie is famous for not only its exotic nature scene, perhaps, but also the dirty city. I often see some people in elegant dress toss the waste whenever they have eaten something. A pregnant woman can drop waste at will, how can she be expected to tell her baby the right thing on public sanitation in the future ?
　　
　　 It seems that we have a long way to go before our city can match the beautiful natural scene.
　　
　　 The struggle of whether I did the right thing or not took my mind all the way home. I didn’t rise up until the bus came to the stop that I should get off.