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　　 I got a call at about 9:00, and I was told that they are going to deliver me a birthday cake and a bundle of flowers. I was a little surprised. But it soon came to me that it’s the Teacher’s Day today. In fact, my birthday is not in the same with Teacher’s day. But I changed the date of my birth on ID, and I have registered my birthday with all stuffs as the same day with Teacher’s Day.
　　
　　 Being a teacher has always been my dream. Unluckily and sadly, my dream doesn’t come true so far. I almost became a teacher two years ago, unfortunately, I finally failed it. It seems that I can never become a teacher in my life. How sadly I feel every time when I think of this.
　　
　　 Actually, I want to be a teacher, but my character won’t make me a good teacher. That’s what I can’t struggle to be a teacher with all of my effort. I am a short-tempered man. But Being a teacher must be very patient, therefore I am incompetent to be a teacher.
　　
　　 Dreams always seem to be so far away from the realities, at thought of which many people feel more or less disappointed. Perhaps, I have too many dreams that can’t be come true. So I dream a lot of strange dreams every night, of which I am really fond. I guess that the dreams in sleep are a kind of compensate for my dreams of life.

　　 My mother-in-law has been retired for about ten years. She doesn’t attend any kind of public activities. Her life is limited as a family woman, buying foods, cooking foods, and doing something for her family. But nobody want to be lonely and feel isolated. So she often joins in when other family members are talking. Sadly, her oldest son and her daughter, my wife, don’t seem to be patient with her.
　　
　　 Sometimes, my mother-in-law will come out of kitchen for some topics whenever she hears talking. But she often gets a little cold response like this :”It’s none of your business, or I have told you yesterday, and so on.” I have told my wife that she is not supposed to treat her mother like that.
　　
　　 I don’t talk a lot at my mother-in-law’s home. But I always tell her what I know if she asks what is talking, because I know my wife has less patience on this.
　　
　　 I think my wife and her brothers haven’t known that their parents are feeling kind of lonely. After they retired, and their physical condition contain their activitiy. So young families need to talk more about things happened around. In fact, I have told my wife about the feeling of how the elders feel, especially, when they stay at home too long, lacking of communication with other people.
　　
　　 Perhaps, elders are really like children on many sides. We need to pay more effort to care for not only their physical condition but also their mental condition.

　　 My daughter is now a student of grade 4, nearly 9 years old. But she still fears ghost at night very much. I had ever encouraged her not to be afraid of ghost, and secured her that I would present myself in a second whenever she called me if she feel scared. She even tested the posibility of my promise by calling me in a very low voice. Every time when she called me no matter how low her voice was, I could hear it and get by her bed at once. She seemed to be satisfied with my promise.
　　
　　 But, She always said that she feard ghost in recent after she went to bed. That made her hard fall asleep. Sometimes it would took her half an hour to sink into dream. So I had to decide to sit around in her bedroom till she fell asleep tonight. I soon heard her peaceful snoring in not more than five minutes.
　　
　　 In fact, I also feard ghost badly when I was a little kid. But I have a elder brother, and we slept in a same bed. But my daughter doesn’t have any sister or brother like many children of our country. Perhaps, I have told her too many stories of ghosts. As a matter of fact, I heard more ghost stories in childhood.
　　
　　 Girl is girl, I never expect her to be brave like a boy. If she dreads ghost, what I need to do is to stay beside her till she goes into dream. I think she will braver when the time passes. She won’t need my sitting in her bedroom any more one day. Everything has its routine.

　　 When I was in ChangCha, A friend of whom I had not seen for a long time called me on QQ. I asked what’s about her. To my big surprise, she said that her husband wanted to divorce her. Her husband was ever my workmate, one of my friends. In fact, I knew more or less about the situation of their marriage. But I never thought that it would go so worse like that.
　　
　　 They were both my workmates. Her husband was ever at the same department with me. He is a computer programmer too. He left our town for ShengZheng to apply for HuaWei. After the couple had been separated for about four years, she decided to quit her job for living with him. She got a job in ChangSha, so that they could live together. Unluckily, he was sent to Vietnam by his company on business. At that time, their daughter was only several months old.
　　
　　 A year passed, she was told that he was attached to a girl in Vietnam who was a waitress. They both sent dirty messages to provoke her now and then, warning her not to want too much if they got divorced.
　　
　　 She just repeated that he was not such a man whenever she met me online, which let me think of the character of “xianglishao”. I feel so sad about her situation. But I can do nothing for her just say something promising.
　　
　　 For a mother, she would have a tough life if she claimed the right of bringing her daughter up. But if she didn’t claim that, it’s very hard for her to decide it. Her baby is only two years of age. I can image what a shock it is for her.
　　
　　 It seems that the rate of divorce is soaring in our country. The reason is complicated. But for a certain couple, the reason is clear. Some people try their best, though they may fail at last, before they get divorced. But some people don’t. For some people, the marriage is just a shelter of loneness, or something for the sex desire like water does for thirst. Perhaps, they have forgotten, for human, there are a lot of responsibilities.

　　 I can assert that no man doesn’t like charming woman, except for those who deliver abnormal hormone. I am for sure a normal man. So sometimes I am caught on staring pretty girl by some acquaintances, I have to say in a tone of self-mockery that I am a wolves, so is every man.
　　
　　 But I never mean it seriously untill something happened in recent. At the thought of that, I can’t help laughing to myself. In the past twenty days, eight of us have worked temporarily in ChangSha for the preparation before the new computer system of business management was running. A female workmate sat across my table face to face. Whenever she asked me to do something or ask me some questions, I answered her, my eyes staring at her. She always put her hand on the neckline of her shirt.
　　
　　 It’s very weird. She never did it before, and she didn’t cough either. She didn’t need to do that. But she did it. It’s just reminded me of that I was a real goat. I really for several times wanted to tell her what she was doing was really odd, which protected nothing for her but obviously telled others that she was vulnerable on that. But there were too many people in the room. I couldn’t say that frankly. I wanted to message her that by QQ, but I thought it’s improper either.
　　
　　 Perhaps it’s because I declared that all men are more or less lustful when all of the female workmates criticized some men were really horny and evil, after I told them a sad story of a husband deserting his wife, who is one of my friends.
　　
　　 I wanted to talk with her with a bowed head, but I never got used to it. I thought it is also impolite not to look at her when I spoke to her. Finally, I almost laughed out whenever she did that unknowingly even though the neckline of her shirt was very high.
　　
　　 Obviously, she thinks I am a real wolves, indeed.